Lying to children can make them manipulative

Which parent can be proud to have never lied to their children? Even if you don’t tend to lie on a daily basis, you have to understand that it’s hard, if not impossible, to always be honest with the little ones. Only these petty frauds can have real consequences for children, as this study proves, and claims that it can make them manipulators.

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Lies, no matter how small, are almost an integral part of our daily lives. Parents are too champions of this class and really can’t stop lying to their children. Of course, the approach is not always negative, on the contrary. Most do negligence and others only to protect their children from the realities of life which can sometimes be difficult for children to accept. However, that should not be the case. Indeed, the study published The Journal of Experimental Child Psychology The lies made by the University of Singapore in collaboration with the Universities of Toronto (Canada), San Diego (USA) and Zhejiang (China) can have a real impact. negative effect on emotional development children. Worse, this study even suggests that these small inventions of parents may later turn children into manipulators.

Small lies, big manipulators

To draw these conclusions, the researchers reviewed 379 young adults who were on average 21 years old and had to fill out four questionnaires. The first concerns lies that their parents may have told them when they were children and especially their frequency. The other was interested their own lies and more specifically to those they can tell their parents. Finally, the last two were more dedicated their psychosocial behavior and to it their tendency to behave selfishly or impulsively.

Not surprisingly, the results reveal that people who have always encountered lies are fine more likely to tell their own story. However, this survey goes much further and confirms that this is also what you can forcing them to adopt intrusive, even manipulative behavior.

The results need to be interpreted a little a posteriori

Like many other studies of this type, it is important Take a step back to interpret the results. In fact, the results of the surveys are almost all based exclusively memories that are sometimes relatively old. Childhood memories are not not always very clear and above all you can change over time. Therefore, it is important not to believe their words but to draw these conclusions with tweezers.

However, this study raises questions lies to his children and especially on the ground how this can affect their own development and so on their relationships with others later.