5 Positive Punishments That Work To Raise Kids – TIPS & TRICKS

5 Positive Punishments That Work To Raise Kids

As children, we are all led to do stupid things or engage in unwanted behavior. Despite this, living it as a parent can be disarming because you don’t always know how to react when the little ones aren’t right. The idea of ​​“sanction” or “punishment” does indeed have a very negative connotation at the moment. However, a parent should educate his child and teach him good manners as every action has consequences. What if the solution was to use positive punishment?

One thing is certain: violent punishment should be banned

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Some parents use the act of yelling, resorting to corporal punishment (hitting, hitting, etc.), humiliating, insulting, or threatening to signal to their children that they have behaved inappropriately. However, violence, revenge and aggression are “Sanctions” that teach the child nothingapart from anxiety, stress, insecurity, low self-esteem and mistrust. A humiliated, neglected, or beaten child may also internalize that conflicts with others are settled in aggression and hatred. In addition, it is: the worst confession of weakness to a parent who are confronted with behavior that is beyond them. Remember that the parent’s role is to educate and educate the child, no to train it.

However, this does not mean that it is not necessary don’t respond and ignore what happened, especially when firm dialogue is not enough. Some parents may then deprive their little one of the television, confiscate his favorite toy, forbid him to go outside, deprive him of dessert or even send him to an isolated room to think. However, there is another possibility: positive punishments! It’s about punishment in line with the committed error and which are logical. This allows the child to gauge his actions.

5 examples of positive punishments

1) Call for material repair

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Positive punishment is always directly related to the behavior one is trying to correct or the stupidity performed. And in this regard, repair (if possible) is one of the most concrete punishments. It consists of cleaning or helping to repair what is damaged or broken. It can also be done at any age as even a little one can clean the wall they drew on or help clear up broken pieces. Achieving this task allows the passage to renew the dialogue and exchange to anchor this learning, could not be more concrete.

2) And when repair is not possible?

You can’t always solve everything, but you can always try to solve things. Talking to your child will definitely give you an idea of: symbolic repair or compensation. The most immediate may be financial compensation with pocket money when the child is older. However, it may also be easier to write a letter of apology, strike up a conversation with the injured person, or do the yard a favor if the problem is a broken tool. Again, choose penalties related to the mistake made.

3) Hardship, yes, but not just any old way!

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Depriving the child of his blanket (that is his reassurance) or depriving the adolescent of essential elements for his physical or intellectual development (sports, etc.) is not the best idea. It’s necessary anyway always justify the withdrawal. For example, you might snatch your teen’s phone or console if you explain that it’s because he can’t focus on his homework. Stick to your decision until your child understands the boundaries not to be crossed and the house rules to follow.

4) Negotiation, especially to be used with adolescents

In adolescence, the appearance sometimes arbitrary authority can be difficult to accept and thus respect. This is why opening negotiations can be a good idea. By consultation it is then possible to find common ground silently anddraw up a contract of trust. The child or young person then feels heard and respected. It also helps to set things straight and create clear conditions from the start. So if he breaks these rules, he knows what he is doing (e.g. he has no right to go to his next evening if he has not respected the given schedule).

5) think positive reinforcement

Positive reinforcement passes emphasize good behavior adopted by the child. For example, if he refuses to lend his toy, it will motivate him to start over by praising him when he spontaneously decides to give it away or invite the other child to play. Do not hesitate to explain why this attitude is positive. For example, in the example of the shared toy, we can emphasize that this makes his brother or sister very happy. Your child will understand better and will stop doing stupid things.

Positive punishments are good! However…

Every child is different. There is therefore no magic recipe for punishing them or making them understand essentials. Likewise, perfect parents don’t exist and those who claim to be are arguably not the best! In the end, everyone does their best and we hope that these tools will be useful to you in your daily life and in your relationships with your children. However, before we finish, let’s recall the importance of:draw up clear rules and D’have well-explained expectations, otherwise they cannot be followed! You also have to follow them yourself.